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How Active Listening Can Help Improve a Relationship

Active listening is a skill that one possesses and has developed a specific communication that allows one to fully hear what another person is trying to say. For a couple to achieve a long term relationship, it is vital that they communicate and listen in a meaningful way.

Let the other person speak

By letting the other person speak, this takes effort at your end to refrain yourself from doing these actions: arguing your case while the other person is stating his/her position, resist the urge to interrupt and cut off the other person speaking, and when you control yourself on these, you will be talking less, but you allow yourself to listen well on the other person’s explanation and, therefore, provide both a communication and listening avenue to you and the other person.

See yourself in the other person’s shoes

When you are in a dialogue with another person, you must establish a goal on focusing more on the other person’s emotional needs; in this way, you are putting yourself in the person’s shoes during the conversation and, in this way, you will be able to understand his/her perspective better and, at the same time, you begin to be an active listener, one who listens and tries to understand the other person’s side.

Don’t jump to conclusions

Avoid the negative thought of jumping to conclusions about the other person, especially when you both are in the middle of a dialogue, because this indicates that you have already entertained in your mind a pre-existing belief about the other person, which can block your skill of being an active listener, therefore, focus more on how to resolve your relationship issues in a positive way.

Ask questions

During the process of communication and listening to each other, when the other person has finished his/her position, it’s time to ask questions for clarification purposes, but don’t set the tone of asking questions like you are making accusations, and when the other person answers your questions, listen well to determine the truth of his/her statements.

Rephrase what the other person says

Part of making clear with issues that are in the process of being resolved through a dialogue is to paraphrase what the other person says, not to be rude about it but to confirm whether you heard all of the other person’s statements right; doing this makes you to communicate back the points he/she has made objectively and the exchange of conversation that comes with this can help you continue to be an active listener. Learning how to be an active listener is being an effective communicator, such that when you are in a dialogue to resolve a relationship, by focusing on what the other person is saying will actually allow you to put yourself in a good position to understand more the situation, because when you listen correctly, you also learn more.